Monday, 20 October 2014

Stop Girl Trafficking: War on Women

Hi readers and followers,

As you are aware, I usually blog about the 3 R's (Relationship with God, Relationship with our spouse/fiancé/boyfriend or girlfriend and Relationship with People.

 
I was recently given an opportunity by www.mateyscott.com to write a guest post on War on Women. Although I have professional experience on the topic, I was sceptical to blog about it as it's a sensitive issue that a lot of women (vulnerable) struggle to speak out and seek support as they are scared that they will be blamed/they will be judged.  If we do not speak out/speak against Rape/Human Trafficking, there is likelihood that perpetrators will increase their abuse.


Human trafficking is a serious crime and a grave violation of human rights. Every year, thousands of men, women and children fall into the hands of traffickers, in their own countries and abroad. Almost every country in the world is affected by trafficking, whether as a country of origin, transit or destination for victims. 

Article 3, paragraph (a) of the Protocol to Prevent, Suppress and Punish Trafficking in Persons defines Trafficking in Persons as the recruitment, transportation, transfer, harbouring or receipt of persons, by means of the threat or use of force or other forms of coercion, of abduction, of fraud, of deception, of the abuse of power or of a position of vulnerability or of the giving or receiving of payments or benefits to achieve the consent of a person having control over another person, for the purpose of exploitation.

Keywords: Someone who is trafficked is exploited, coerced into engaging in things that they would not naturally do, the abuse of power by someone, etc.


Please, open the link below and read Tabitha's account of being trafficked, Tabitha was sexually exploited by her Uncle. 9 in 10 rape cases are usually committed by a relative or someone known to the family.
Notes: Thank you to our followers/readers that are sharing Myss Lafunky's blogspot on their social media. Please, this week, do me a favour, share the blog and tell others about it.
If you have any questions or you have been affected by the above story, please contact Myss Lafunky on trulymakingadifference@gmail.com

- Myss Lafunky 

Monday, 13 October 2014

Love Gone Sour: The Story of Hosea & Gomer

Happy Monday to my readers and followers,

Hope you had a lovely weekend?

Basically I have heard and read different views about how God instructed Hosea to marry an adulterous wife, and how it can be applicable to our relationships and marriages.

What's your view? Please, take your time to read Hosea 1-3.

So...Hosea and Gomer..

Hosea's marriage to Gomer is a most troubling nuptial tale. The Lord told Hosea to marry a promiscuous woman, she bore him three children, who, if their names are indication, were trouble; and though Gomer repeatedly committed adultery, the Lord INSTRUCTED Hosea to FORGIVE her again and again and to continue to be faithful to her. (Would you be faithful to your spouse if your spouse was unfaithful to you?). 

What would it have been like for Hosea to marry someone who he knew would be habitually unfaithful?
Would God really command us in this dispensation to marry someone that He knows will be unfaithful? In this era, God told us in the book of 1 Corinthians 6:14 that, we must not become partners or associates with those who do not believe in Jesus. But there was no record that, Gomer did not believe in the Lord. Therefore, we cannot rightly state that, Gomer was not a believer but her action did not depict a life of a Christian.

Back to Hosea.

Do you think he would have found it difficult to obey God's commands? 

The Lord said to Hosea in Hosea 3:1 that, Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another man and is an adulteress.

Would you obey that command?

I believe the book of Hosea reminds us of God's love for us and His love for His people.  God has continued to remind us of how His chosen people (People of Israel) abandoned Him, and gave themselves to other gods (Hosea 3:1b). Did you know that God kept going after His people, despite their unfaithfulness? He kept showing them His love over and over again. He wanted them even though they had not wanted Him (How difficult would it be to love someone that does not love or want us?)

God is also teaching us about forgiveness, He is telling us that, when our friends/spouse offend us, we should receive them back with love, we must follow the example of God's love and how He showed His love to His people ( But in reality, this is not easy, we need to be willing to allow God to help us).


 
I also believe God is reminding us that, we may shape each other as believers, "iron sharpens iron", in other words, God can use you to transform someone. Even if we are part of someone else's transformation, it is finally God, not us, who effects the change. We are not called to change others but we are called to love and forgive each other, as we are loving and forgiving one another, God will change us all for the better.

Imagine, how Gomer must have felt when her husband reconciled with her and said, "You are to live with me many days". - Hosea 3:3. 

I believe God wants us to work out our flaws and not give up on ourselves. Also, God may give you a spouse with flaws and you need God and determination to nurture each other.

You may even stumble across things that you don't like about your friends/spouse in the course of your relationship, God is telling you as He told Hosea that, He is ready to help you to love that person, particularly if that is God's plan for you and your spouse/your friend to continue your relationship.

Please, create time to read the book of Hosea. Try and contextualise the account of Hosea and Gomer. I do not believe God is telling us to marry a Promiscious person; God was using the story to remind us of His unconditional love for us and how we are to love others regardless of their sinful lifestyles, and for us to love others with sincere hearts and not retaliate any offence.

Finally, God is reminding us to trust Him in our decision making, like, Hosea listened to God's directions and how He obeyed God, He wants you and I to obey His teachings.

Please, do not use the story of Hosea to justify marrying a Promiscious person, remember to be guided by the Lord in all your decision making, just like Hosea was guided by God.

I hope I have not confused you with this write-up.

My daily devotional guided my write-up as well.

- Myss Lafunky




Tuesday, 7 October 2014

My Weekend Experience of Following Jesus..

Happy Monday to my committed readers and followers,

Hope you had a lovely week? What's the weather like in your country/city? In England, the weather is becoming really cold, it doesn't feel like autumn at all. 

Sequel to last week's post about following God...
My weekend was very interesting.  Myss Lafunky undertook a task that she had never done before. Basically, the Holy Spirit told me to undertake a Spoken Word (Monologue/recitation of poem in a dramatic way) amongst the midst of young people, the message was about purity. 
I didn't want to follow His instructions as I was quite timid, I felt I would disrupt the programme that had been planned. I don't know where I got the boldness from, I told the youth leader but at the same time, I said I was nervous as I'd not done a Spoken Word before. Nevertheless, I made the decision to follow God's instructions, it wasn't easy as Spoken Word was out of my territory.

I went for it and I truly enjoyed it. When I arrived on the stage, I was a bit anxious, however, I became relaxed and I allowed God to speak through me.  It is to be noted that, I prepared for the Spoken Word, I structured what I planned to say and I thought about the demographic of the audience.


 
After the Spoken Word, a lady from the audience came to me, she said she was extremely shocked and ecstatic when she saw Myss Lafunky (me) as she had always read the blog from Nigeria, now, she is in England, she met the blog owner. I was also amazed as I didn't know how to react or respond...now I wished I'd taken a picture with her.

My Lessons from following God's instruction

- It might not be easy to follow God's instruction the moment God tells us to do something.

- From my experience, the likelihood of pondering on tons of negative reasons as to why one cannot follow the instruction from God is very high.

- There is a responsibility for us to prepare for the task, plan for the task, and to give the task our best.

- There could be distractions ..which start from our thoughts. We must allow our thoughts to be positive about God's instructions. Remind yourself of what God says about it.

- If you are not certain that you heard from God, kindly tell God to confirm what He had said to you through someone else.

- Tell God to help you to follow His instructions as you cannot do it on your own. God loves people that humble themselves. He loves people that acknowledge that they are spiritually poor without Him.

I hope you have been able to learn one or two things from this post.

Enjoy the rest of your week.

- Myss Lafunky

N: B- Check out the guest post that I wrote for Christian women's blog. Here is the link: http://blogsbychristianwomen.com/2014/10/dont-judge-im-love-kiss-yes-possible/

Wednesday, 1 October 2014

Follow Me: Must I Follow Jesus?

Hello readers and followers,

Myss Lafunky would like to welcome you to the month of October.  It seems this year is going pretty fast.

I am sorry for not publishing a post on Monday. My week has been hectic even though it's only Wednesday. I can only thank God for strength. I have created time to rest, I now feel better.

Remember to send your questions, comments, concerns, and stories to trulymakingadifference@gmail.com

Back to today's post..

Jesus said: "Come, follow me and I will send you out to fish for people." ( Mark 1:17)




Can you picture Jesus coming along to you and saying, "Follow me?" How hard or easy would it be to drop everything and go? 

Would you literally drop everything for Jesus? Or would you procrastinate and tell Him to come back in a few years or months time before you follow Him?

Imagine, if God spoke to you and your spouse to drop everything and to follow Him.

Are you aware that Jesus spoke a similar command to Simon and Andrew? Did you know that they they dropped everything and went with Him?

As children of God today, how life changing is His call to us, although the Lord may not call you to turn your backs away from your life's work or your family in order to become a Missionary.  However, the term "Follow me" can be linked to numerous things.

Would you seek God's views before you make that crucial decision?

Would you remember what Jesus would do before you embark on disagreeing with your friend/spouse?

Would you abandon your own plans, goals and dreams to serve and help somebody else because Jesus Christ directed you?



Would you ignore your fear, worries and listen to what God says about you?

Would you ignore your age and other people's past experiences and follow Jesus's principles?

One could actually argue that, Andrew, Simon Peter followed Jesus because they saw Him in real life, therefore, they found it easier to obey Him than it is for you and I to obey.

For us, the only way that we can know how we are to follow Jesus is through His Word (The Bible). Through giving our lives to Him, and telling Jesus to help us to live a life that is worthy.

Also, Simon Peter and Andrew had each other, they both made the decision to follow Jesus. They supported each other.
Do you have friends that are influencing you to follow Jesus's principles? Are you encouraging your spouse to follow Jesus by the way you live your life or through the decisions that you make together?
The Word of God says that..Two are better than one because they have a good reward for their labour (Ecclesiastes 4:9).

Are you ready to follow Jesus? Are you praying for your friends, relations, spouse, siblings, and colleagues to also follow Jesus in all that pertains to their lives?

Jesus is calling you to follow Him.  He loves you, Yes You! He cares, He wants to teach you the way to live your life. He wants you to reign with Him in Heaven forever when it's time. 

Do you need help in following Jesus? Please, contact trulymakingadifference@gmail.com or you can speak to a local Christian Pastor/Reverend in your neighbourhood or contact a local Christian group on Social Media.

A PRAYER FOR TODAY

Father Jesus, I come to you today. Please, help me to follow you all the days of my life. Teach me what it means to follow you. Help the people around me to follow you. Amen.

- Myss Lafunky

NB - Myss Lafunky has written articles for different Christian women's group. Recently, one of my articles was accepted by a Christian women's group, it's going to be published on 4th October 2014 CST. I will share the links with you all. 

Have a lovely week ahead. See you next week.


Monday, 22 September 2014

Are You A Match?

Hello Readers and followers,

Happy Monday. How was your weekend? Did you read your Bible during the weekend? Myss Lafunky would like to plead with you to take time (at least 15 minutes every day) to learn more about Jesus and His way through His Word. You can start by reading a chapter a day, i.e. Matthew 1 (For Monday), Matthew 2 (For Tuesday), etc., and after you have read, use what you have read to pray to God. Happy reading! 
Send me an email so that I can know how you are doing.  You have 24 hours in a day, wouldn't it be amazing if you give at least 15 mins to God? Remember, God has continued to serve you as He watches over you when you sleep. He made it possible for you to be alive as you don't have control over your sleep. Why not take time to learn about Him.

Before I start today's post, I would like to use this medium to thank all those that have continued to subscribe to Myss Lafunky's blog, you are appreciated, and I'm also grateful to our readers from different countries of the world, without this blog, I would not have been able to reach you. Remember to tell your friends, siblings, parents, colleagues, church friends, new believers, and singles about Myss Lafunky's blog.

If you need to ask Myss Lafunky's any questions, or you need advice, mentorship, or you want your story to be published anonymously, please contact me on trulymakingadifference@gmail.com
The ministry is a Non-Profit Christian Organisation, therefore, there is no charge.

Today's post stemmed from my daily devotional.


Are You A Match or A Mismatch?

Spiritual mismatch is often used to describe a marriage between a believer and a non-believer or a relationship between two believers that share different beliefs about their faith.  

Are you aware that some Born Again Christians that are married to non-believers sometimes feel like a spiritual widow - they feel isolated, lonely, discouraged and they sometimes feel distance from their spouse? 
Some of them wish God will give them the power to change their spouse to a Christian.
For those that are married to non-believers spouse or became a Christian after your solemization, please, keep praying for your spouse, ask God to comfort and encourage you, tell God that you need Him to teach you how to show the love of Christ in your home even when things appear difficult.
Remember, God loves your spouse more than you do, and His desire is for your spouse to know Him.

For those that are not yet married and you are considering whether you and your spouse to-be are spiritually compatible even if he/she is a believer already.
Consider the following questions, discuss the questions with your spouse to-be, use the below questions to observe your prospective spouse or use subtle ways to informally quiz your prospective spouse.

NB: The answers are just typical examples of responses from various people.
 
1) Spiritual Growth
a - It comes from purposely spending time alone with God, reading the Word of God and learning from others.
b - It happens when it happens
c - I don't understand what Spiritual growth is about.
d - It's not needed, the Holy Spirit will teach me all things.

2) Money
a - Everything that I have is God's, so I'm happy to give generously.
b - I've earned my money on my own, so I can spend it however I want.

3) Sharing My faith
a - Witnessing is done by Evangelist and Missionaries. I will not be witnessing with you.
b - Evangelism is a lifestyle and the best way to win people to Christ is to love them unconditionally and to also create time to witness to people.
 
4) Hospitality
a - I don't like having visitors. I only like having a few friends to my place and they must not stay over.
b - I love having people over including my siblings, it's a way to connect with others spiritually and to show act of kindness.

 
5) Weekends
a - All weekends must be spent at my father's place, it's our tradition, even after church.
b - I believe in keeping my weekends for God and it's a time to reconnect back to God.
c - Weekend is for watching TV, a time to rest and a time to hang out with friends.
 
6) Background
a - I'm from an affluent background, I dislike people that are not educated. I must have designer products.
b - I'm from a middle class background, however, I have relatives that are not educated, I shop anywhere.
 
7) Bible Study
a - I study my Bible on a daily basis.
b - I learn the Word when I attend church.
 
8) Sex
a - I cannot marry someone that has engaged in any form of fornication.
b - I don't believe in having pre-marital sex, however, I am okay with kissing and touching.
c - I believe in no THKS before marriage (No inappropriate touching, no inappropriate hugging, no kissing and no sex).
 
9) Conflicts
a - I believe a man is never wrong and a wife must always apologise to her husband at all times during conflicts.
b - I believe men and women must submit to one another and pray to God to help them, and to seek counsel.
c - I don't think conflicts will occur.
d - We will solve issues as they arise.
 
10) Interests
a - I enjoy travelling to different countries, I would love to move to Australia.
b - I enjoy travelling within my vicinity, I don't want to move away from England due to my family.
c - I hate travelling.

I hope you have found the above useful. You can also create your own questions. Remember, you and your spouse should work towards being a match before you marry. In addition, it is VITAL that both of you are Born Again Christians, however, it takes more than being a Born Again Christian to be a match for each other, you need to discuss your values, background, health, finance, some vital biblical principles, amongst others with each other.
Peradventure, you both share similar interests, similar dreams and goals, and the individual is not a Born Again Christian or the individual is not a humble Christian, you need to go back to God and seek God's view. I pray the Lord God will lead and direct you right in Jesus name. Remember to trust Him and allow Him to lead you. 

Finally, 2 Corinthians 6:14 says: Stop forming inappropriate relationships with unbelievers. Can right and wrong be partners? Can light have anything in common with darkness? (God's Word Translation Bible). God's view about this is very clear, He does not want you to form a very close relationship with people that have not given their lives to Christ. Nonetheless, still allow God to direct you.

Have a wonderful week.  Remember to share this post. There's sharing in ministry. If you have any questions regarding this post, feel free to write your comment below or send an email to trulymakingadifference@gmail.com

- Myss Lafunky

Monday, 15 September 2014

The Cry For Freedom: The Story of a Porn Addict

Hello readers and followers,

I was privileged to be part of a Christian radio show (Before I Do), we had a guest: Elisha Kolade. Elisha was a previous porn addict and he was addicted for over 10 years. Elisha was introduced to porn by his friends, and also, he did not feel love whilst growing up. *How are your friends influencing you?* * How are you showing that you care about your children?*

Elisha was extremely engrossed in his porn addiction. Elisha eventually moved on to sleeping with prostitutes. He advanced and progressed in his addiction by paying to sleep with prostitutes.
(What are the things that you are addicted to? And what are those things that you are struggling to let go, and you are becoming controlled negatively?). Do you know that addiction is an evil spirit? It is a way that the Devil uses to control people.

While Elisha was going through his struggles, he did not speak out for help. Although he was a regular church goer but his life did not depict a life that was committed to Christ, however, people were not aware of his struggles.

Consequences of his actions

Elisha lost his minds, all he could think about was images of women, he masturbated, he was ashamed, he was unable to reason, and everything about his life was on hold. His finances were affected, he felt ashamed and guilty, yet Elisha could not let go.





So, how was Elisha delivered from Porn?

He believed God helped him. The Grace and Mercy of God delivered him.
He had the desire to change and to let go. Although he fell during the change but God helped and lifted him up.
Elisha had to change his environment. He moved away from his old environment.
He burnt his dvds.
He spoke out for help. It took Elisha a lot of courage to seek help. The help became very beneficial.
He also asked God to help him. Elisha is confident that God truly helped and delivered him.


Elisha has written a book about his experience and how God delivered him. Elisha's book is available on Amazon. If you would like to contact Elisha, kindly contact trulymakingadifference@gmail.com and his detail will be forwarded to you.


- Myss Lafunky

Monday, 8 September 2014

Sexual Sins in My Relationship: Turning It Around

Happy Monday to my committed readers and followers,

Hope you like reading and following my blog. 

I was asked if I was a Youth Pastor. I'm not actually a Youth Pastor, I have passion to help singles, teenagers, youth and all Christians in respect to the 3 R's ( Relationship with God, Relationship with your spouse, your spouse to be, and Relationship with People). It's my passion and ministry. I don't need a special title to make a difference.

I was also asked if I am paid to run my blog. The answer is No. This is a Non-Profit organisation. Myss Lafunky is a Non-Profit teaching blogspot for Christian users of the Internet. The materials on the blog can be used by anyone, I am particularly pleased when the blog has been referenced and when people make use of the materials. Nonetheless, if you don't reference the blog after you have used a material, it's not a problem at all, as long the message is being spread to everyone.
Another Christian ministry has recently blessed Myss Lafunky. I am extremely grateful, I feel honoured and humbled. All the Glory and honour belong to God.

Now..here goes the post for this week. Remember to share the post with your friends and your Internet friends.

The following is the story of Lola and Ade..

Ade met Lola many years ago when she was just finishing her A levels. Ade was a worldly, fun-loving, handsome young man, and she was also a fun, young lady but from an upper middle class background, she seldom attended any party.

Lola and Ade were both church goers, they identified themselves as Christians in title, but without the right knowledge about relationships, neither did they knew God's position on relationships (dating and courtship).

In the course of their relationship, their relationship became quite romantic, passions and lust got the better of their relationships. They engaged in the THKS (Touching, Hugging inappropriately, Kissing and Sex). Due to their worldly mindset, they thought it was not possible to go out with someone without engaging in THKS and they also felt that, as long they were not engaging in THKS with other people, they were fine.
 


As they grew in age and after about 2 years into their relationship, Lola and Ade became serious with their Christian lives. They started reading their Bible more, they started reading blogs about courtship, they started attending Christian seminars, Christian programmes; they learnt a lot about Christian relationships. Lola and Ade pondered on whether they should continue their relationship given that they had done the worst thing you could ever imagined, they had defiled themselves. Lola and Ade decided to separate for a year and they started all over again. During their one year gap, they became platonic friends. They had to get rid of sexual emotions.

Initially, Lola and Ade struggled to relate with each other as mere friends, having engaged in THKS before.  However, God renewed their minds. God reminded that, He had forgiven their sins and He would not remember their sins no more. God told them that He was ready to give them a second chance as He had a purpose that He wanted to fulfil in their lives.
As Lola and Ade's friendship developed, they had to deal with all the hidden issues of their relationships, they had to learn about purity in courtship, purity in marriage, purpose of courtship, purpose of a relationship, how to stay pure in courtship, how to be a friend with your spouse to be, they also took time to pray extensively, they had a mentor that they opened up to who supported them during this process. The learning, strict boundaries, open communication with each other, and the safety mechanism (having a mentor, supervision from their mentor) prevented them from falling into sin as they sought God's Will for their relationship.


 
The new relationship was built on God's principles. Lola and Ade humbled themselves to learn about Christian courtship, they adopted a teachable spirit, and they took time to hear from God during every stage of their relationship.

While Lola and Ade's courtship started wrongly in the first two years, after they separated for a year, they were able to rebuild their relationship. They started a new courtship based on Godly principles for 18 months, and after 18 months, they tied the knot. 

Lola and Ade wished they had the right knowledge from the inception of their courtship, they were not taught in church about purity neither were they taught by their parents.
Lola and Ade no longer have any regrets as they have continued to stand on God's Word which says, 'There is now no condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus, who walk not after the flesh, but after the Spirit.'


To Myss Lafunky's readers and followers
Have you missed it along the way? Have you defiled yourself in a lustful way? This is the time to get it right, God is ready to help you. Are you ready to take the bold step to live a pure life in your next relationship or in your present relationship?

It is to be noted that, while God told Lola and Ade to get back together, God's instructions for you may be different. God may tell you to break the wrong foundation that you have laid by breaking your relationship entirely. You need to ask God about your own relationship or seek counsel from a Christian mentor or counsellor, or someone knowledgeable about Christian courtships.

If you have any questions, leave your comments below or contact Myss Lafunky on trulymakingadifference@gmail.com
 

- Myss Lafunky