Sunday, 20 July 2014

What Happens When Older Women Do Not Mentor: God's High Calling for AllChristian Women

Hi readers and followers,

I have been reading a book by Shirley Sustar (Become a woman of Power), I would like to share my learning and thought provoking points that were discussed in the book with you.


What happens when older women do not mentor younger women? Ask yourself, am I mentoring younger women? Or are you thinking "I must be 70 before I am considered an older woman". Not at all, as long as you have people younger than you, the ministry of mentoring young women can start.

Throughout the Church today, perhaps through ignorance rather than disobedience, many older women are not answering the call of God to mentor the younger women. Due to traditions, mind-sets and insecurities, this is simply the way it has been. Some feel that they don't have anything to offer, some are of the view that they need to be given a special title in church before they can undertake the calling, and some feel that the role is only for the Pastor or the Pastor's wife.

Because of this, it has been far too common for male ministers to counsel, reach and train young Christian women concerning relationships and ministries. When this happens, an inherent danger raises its ugly head: the danger of sexual sin.

I'm sure most of us have heard of stories of great men of God who were called to look after the flocks but along the line, they fell into sexual sins.  

Majority of this men who are servants of God minister to women out of a sincere love and devotion to God's service and many pastors do not have older women who are mature and able to train the younger women of their churches. Or it could be argued that, some pastors want to carry out all the role of mentoring by themselves.

Is it really the role of men to minister to young women? No!! Paul admonished Titus to tell people of Crete that older women are to counsel younger women.

Why is it dangerous for men to counsel young women?

Women whose hearts have been misunderstood or broken often crave tender understanding from the opposite sex. A male minister who is gentle and compassionate toward her could unknowingly capture her heart and from one thing to another, the minister and the young woman may stumble. In majority of cases, the personal ministry from a man to a woman without the presence of another woman that joins in the mentoring does more harm than good.
 
It is TIME for OLDER WOMEN to mentor the YOUNGER WOMEN.


What does it mean to mentor?

It means to be a wise and trusted person. A person who is a teacher, an educator, an instructor, someone who can counsel, who can lead and train others, a godly woman, a woman who lives by example of what she teaches.

God is calling you to lay aside every fear, every anxiety and He wants you to take on the role of mentoring by being a Titus 2:3-5 woman.

There are young women who need a mentor, a mentor who not only shows them the way but rather encourage them and praise them for what they are doing right.

Undertaking this task will bring young women into maturity in Christ, it will also motivate you as an older woman to live a life that is right before God.

The role encompasses spiritual and practical teachings.

Are you a Titus 2:3-5 woman?

I want to use this medium to thank all the women that have undertaken the role of Titus 2:3-5 woman in my life. Some are still undertaking the role in my life. God will reward you for all your labour. The blessing will be passed to your children as well. Your children will find people to mentor them in the way of the Lord.
I also thank God for the Grace that He has given me to also be a Titus woman to other people's lives.

Jesus said, "The harvest is indeed plentiful, but the labourers are few. So pray to the Lord of the harvest to force out and thrust labourers into His harvest".

I pray God will grant women the boldness to become a Titus woman.
 

Tips on becoming a Titus woman ...

Build relationships with younger women. Get to know them.

Ensure that your life is worthy of emulating and the lives of your family. You must be working towards being temperate, self-controlled, not quarrelsome, available, teachable, trustworthy, have a good reputation, you must be sincere, you must be able to manage your household well, you must be caring, you must be humble, and your life must be dedicated to honouring God.

Ensure that you are not quick to judge or condemn.

You must be friendly and approachable.

You must be a giver.

You must devote time to prayers.

You must follow-up on people.

You must be able to tame your tongue and not gossip and share private issues with others.


Do you have any tips that can help us in being a Titus 2:3-5 woman?
 
- Myss Lafunky




Monday, 14 July 2014

How To Endure Sufferings and Trials

Happy Monday readers and followers,

What's the weather like in your area?  In England, it's very sunny and lovely, I guess it's summer time.

Today's post is to encourage anyone that may be facing any kind of sufferings and trials. This post is written from a Christian perspective.


                                Right Ways of enduring trials and sufferings


1)      Be content to know WHO is in charge.  Romans 8:28 says that: And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are called according to his purpose.

2)      Acknowledge that God is with you and talk to Him at all times.  Hebrews 13:5b states that, for God has said: "I will never leave you; I will never abandon you".

3)      God wants you to leave all your worries with Him because He cares for you and He wants to sort everything out for you. Are you wondering why? It's because He loves you.

4)      Keep fellowship with other Christians. Do not isolate yourself. In the midst of storms, God usually sends the right people to encourage you. Ask God to also help you to sift the counsel that comes your way.

5)      God said that, let us be concerned for one another, and help one another.  And let us not give up the habit of meeting together, as some are doing. Instead, let us encourage one another all the more (Hebrews 10:24-25).

6)      Know that God sets and knows your limits. The Bible says that there is no temptation that has overtaken you except such as is common to human beings; but God is faithful, He will make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it (1 Corinthians 10:13).

7)      Wait for His perfect timing. Sometimes, God's time may appear as if it is taking too long but during the waiting, we develop patience, we rely more on God, we trust in Him more, and at the perfect time, God grants our requests. 

8)      The book of Ecclesiastes 3:1 tells us that, "To everything there is a season, and a time for every matter or purpose under heaven". This tells us that, we don't all live in the same time and season. You should never be jealous of others when they have what you are waiting on God to have. Wait for your time.

9)      Trust in the Lord to guide you. God wants you to remember Him in everything that you do, He wants you to rely on Him and He will show you the right way. Pro 3:5-6

10)  Wait upon the Lord. God said if you wait for Him to guide you, He will strengthen you and never make you weak. Isa 40:31

11)  Seek the truth.  In the place of trials and suffering, God does not want you to consult other gods, false prophets, divinations or witchcrafts. He wants you to seek the truth from Him. God said, "Call upon me and I will answer you and I will show you great and mighty things that you do not know" (Jeremiah 33:3). God may use people to guide you in the necessary steps to take.

12)  Keep pure.  God wants you to stay pure in your thought, action, conduct and in your words in the place of trials and sufferings. He wants our actions to be so good so that we won't be accused by Satan (1 Peter 2:12).

13)  Master the anger.  God said it is only the foolish that get angry easily. God wants you to be slow to getting angry, slow to speak and He wants you to listen more to what He is saying concerning your trials and sufferings.

Have you found this useful? Why not share it with others . . .

Next week post is going to be about wrong ways of enduring trials and sufferings.

- Myss Lafunky

Monday, 7 July 2014

Let Go Of Your Past: Do Not Dwell On The Past: Forget The Past

Happy Monday to my lovely readers and followers,

This post is about moving forward from past mistakes, wrong decisions/choices and old setbacks. Myss Lafunky recognises that some of us might have made wrong decisions/choices in the past. I hope this post will encourage you.

Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.
(Isaiah 43:18, New International Version)

The Bible tells us that every person, no matter how much faith they have or how good they are, will face disappointments. It may be something simple like not getting a promotion you hoped for, or not achieving your target, disappointed by some foolish decisions that you made.

Maybe something more serious happened like a relationship not working out, pre-marital sex, the death of a loved one, or some kind of illness in your body. Whatever it may be, the reality is that we’re all going to suffer some setbacks. No matter what has happened, one of the main keys to overcoming disappointments is learning to let go of the past.




If you feel “stuck” today, you may want to examine what you’re holding on to. 

Be willing to let go of past disappointments by choosing forgiveness. 

Who hurt you? 

Who wronged you?

Release it to God. 

Do you need to forgive yourself?

Do you need to receive God’s forgiveness? 

Let go of the past so that you can overcome disappointments and experience the bright future God has in store for you! There is freedom in forgetting!

What’s happened in your past is not nearly as important as what is in your future. 
Where you’re going is much more significant than where you’ve been. But if you stay focused on the past, you’ll get stuck where you are. 
This is the reason a lot of people don’t have joy or enthusiasm for life. They’re dragging around all of this negative baggage from the past. Somebody offended them last week, and they’ve got that stuffed in their resentment bag. 
Do you carry around bags of regrets? Do you focus on the things you wished you would have done differently? Do people around you remind you of the wrong choices that you made in the past?



Life is too short to live that way. Let go of the disappointments and your old setbacks.
Start every morning fresh and new. God did not create you to carry around all that baggage. Let it go and move forward in the life of blessing He has in store for you.
The Bible says in Philipians 3:13 that "Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before".

Make a decision to move forward. When the thought of the past comes, change your thought, distract yourself and say the below prayers.
Say this short prayer
Lord Jesus, I choose to shake off the past, shake off disappointment and forgive those who have hurt me. Lord, I also need you to help me forgive myself, for wrong decisions and choices that I made in the past.
Heal my heart as I release everything that would try to hold me back in Jesus’ name! 
Search my heart and mind today Lord Jesus. Show me any area where I may be holding on to the past. 
Help me receive Your forgiveness so that I can extend forgiveness to others and forget the former things and move forward in Your blessing in Jesus’ name. 

Myss Lafunky's Monday Quote: Whatever you become involved in, will follow you in your memory # Start making good choices/decisions#
- Myss Lafunky

This post was coined from my personal experience, daily devotional (Joel & Victoria Osteen) and the Word of God.

Tuesday, 1 July 2014

Girlfriend or Fiancée? | Boyfriend or Fiancé?

Hi Myss Lafunky,

While I was at uni, it was a taboo for a Christian lady to say she has a 'boyfriend'.  So any lady in a relationship claims to be automatically engaged. I would like to know your opinion on that.


Dear beloved readers and followers,

Please kindly offer your views in regard to the above. I will offer my views in due course.

- Myss Lafunky

Monday, 30 June 2014

Peace | Love | Courtship - A Post By Two Friends

Happy Monday to my wonderful and committed readers and followers,

Hope you had a lovely weekend? Even if you didn't, cheer yourself up and have a fantabulous week ahead :)

It appears that I'm having new readers from different countries in the world, that's one good thing about the internet. I have been able to reach out to people in Pakistan, Canada, Kenya, America, Hordaland, Doha, Netherlands, Nigeria, United Kingdom, and other countries that I haven't even heard of.

One of my closest girlfriends (She wrote this post: Rag to Riches) who has also been a regular supporter and contributor of my blog; we had a discussion about peace and we have decided to share our discussions with you our readers. We are looking forward to your views.

Here goes the post for this week:

Dialogue between Ife and I:
Not long ago, there was a post on Facebook about how a young lady's fiancé had broken up with her on the basis of his lack of peace. She said his conviction at the inception of the relationship was peace and now that he feels he has lost it, he had to end the relationship.  Ife and I found this quiet strange, considering that a lot of Christians misuse the word peace and equate it with what it is not. This led to our write up on peace. 


Myss Lafunky says: Ife, a lot of people usually say they felt the peace of God, hence they embarked on their relationship. But then again, there are no Bible verses that state that the peace of God is what you need before you embark on a relationship, unless I'm not aware of biblical verses regarding Peace and courtship.  Are you?

Ife says: How do the people know that what they felt was the peace of God? Can peace be quantified?

Were they given the go ahead to embark on the relationship because they felt the peace of God? Hmm...the word 'Peace' has been referenced loosely/and it is still used loosely by some of our Christian singles when people ask how they knew that Mr/Mrs Right was the one, they are quick to say 'I felt the Peace of God', "I was not troubled in my heart, hence I knew she/he was the one".  

Peace is not the absence of trouble. It is unrelated to circumstances and it has nothing to do with what happens on the outside or on the physical. Peace is the end result of total trust in God. Isaiah 53:3 says: "He keeps in perfect peace those whose hearts are stayed on him because He trusts in you".

Peace is confidence in God's ability to see you through any situation. A person who truly has the peace of God can endure a lot of hardship and still enjoy the peace that passes all understanding Philippians 4:6-7. 

The peace the world gives is only present when everything is fine and things are going smoothly. John 14:27 says my peace I give to you, not as the world gives.

Many Christians claim to have peace in their relationship when all is well while they lose it in trouble. This can never be the peace of God.

Peace is a dividend of righteousness, Isaiah 32:17-18 says: "The fruit of that righteousness will be peace; its effect will be quietness and confidence forever.  My people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest."




Peace comes to those who walk in righteousness, Romans 14:17 (For the kingdom of God is not a matter of eating and drinking, but of righteousness, peace and joy in the Holy Spirit). 

The peace of God comes through the word of God as well as a leading through His spirit (click all this scriptures to read them) Luke 7:50 Luke 8:48, Luke 24:36, John 20:19-21 and Romans 8:5-6. 

We cannot claim peace over a certain issue without express instructions from God. If God gives us peace over an issue, the peace will remain permanent in trouble or in joy (Isaiah 54:10).

Before you start that relationship, let God lead you, so that when hard times come, you can rely on His initial instructions; you can always go back to God and seek clarity.

Remember God's word never fails Isaiah 55:11, Numbers 23:19Psalm 89:34.

We have many promises of His faithfulness in scriptures, we can hold on to them during the time of trouble and we can continue to enjoy His peace.

Final words from us, the Bible says in Psalm 119:165 that:

Great peace have those who love your law, and nothing can make them stumble (New International Version). This implies that, if you obey God's Word, you will have great peace, but if you do not obey God's commandments, you will stumble and the Great Peace of God will not be upon you.

Do you believe the presence of Peace is needed before you embark on your courtship journey?

Ife and I would really like to read your views about Peace, love and courtship.

Thanks for taking your time to read our post.

- Myss Lafunky and Ife

Tuesday, 24 June 2014

Re-Blog: Men, How Do You Know If You Have Found the Right Woman?

Hi readers and followers,
The blog link to the below article is: 
http://diaryofasuperchamp.wordpress.com/
I'm a follower of the above blog, I quite love the fact that the blogger is a man/Christian. It's quite encouraging as there are few Christian bloggers that are men.
What do you think of the article below?  

Men, How Do You Know If You Have Found the Right Woman?

‘A man who finds a wife finds a good thing’. I have heard this verse spoken of in the context of how a man should pursue a woman and how he should treasure and love his wife. As I was reading the scripture a few days ago, I was compelled to make the sentence negative. If you do this, you’d get ‘A man who does not find a wife does not find a good thing’.
Is God telling us that he wants every one of us to be single? Heavens no (although there is nothing wrong with being single)! Is God telling us that we should chase after someone who is married? God forbid…that is wrong! What God is telling us is that He wants us to find a woman who is already married to Him… that is why the scripture says ‘A man who finds a wife’!

She makes God No. 1 in her life
Her first husband is God. Since her first marriage is to God, He is to take first position in her life and you are to be No.2. And so He should be No.1 for He is better at everything! You should not try to compete with God for the first place in her heart because you cannot compete. You are not as loving as God, you are not as strong as God, you are not anywhere close to being as selfless as God…you cannot make her nearly as happy as God can. So you must not try to take a position that rightfully belongs to God!
Remember the phrase ‘Happy wife, happy life’? If you want her to be happy and want to be happy, then you have to encourage her relationship with God. So have you been pushing her closer to her first love or are you trying to take the place of her first love? Only he gives her life purpose and controls her destiny. Do you want to have your way with her or do you want God to have His way in her life?
A man who finds a woman who is married to Jesus finds a good thing
She is faithful to her first Husband
God is wonderful and marvelous! He is the prince of peace and the author of all good things! If she is not faithful to that kind of a husband, then how can you expect her to be faithful to you?
If she is running after other lovers (idols) and committing harlotry while married to God, then do not be surprised when she continues the practice while with you. Moreover, do not be surprised if you are one of the lovers that she has run towards. Note that any woman who is willing to sacrifice her faithfulness to God to please you has made you an idol. Since all idolatry leads to pain, all you will do in the end is cause her pain. Do not make yourself the idol who causes her to compromise God.
What you want is a faithful woman. A faithful woman is a helper. She will help you stand strong in the Lord when you start to stray. Do not despise such a woman!
A man who finds a woman who is faithfully married to Jesus finds a good thing
She is a good thing
Since only God is good (Mark 10:18), being a good thing means that she is a God-thing. A God-thing will reflect the characteristics of God. More often than not, she will produce the fruit of the Spirit and be a virtuous woman. You will sleep easy at night with such a woman; trust is no issue for she is a God-thing. You know that the intent of thoughts of her heart is to do you good.
Imagine a woman who reflects the things of God. That is a woman who is worth cherishing and sacrificing yourself over. See, it is easy to love and sacrifice yourself for a wife. So let her bring you love, joy, peace, and victory by remaining a God-thing.
A man who finds a woman who is faithfully married to Jesus finds love, joy, and peace! 
So men, let us not be afraid of a wife! If you are courting, do not say…oh man she is super-spiritual. Do not say…oh man, she does not want to be alone with me past 9 pm! Let us step to the plate and become husbands ourselves prior to getting married.
She who is found by a husband is found by a good thing.

Re-Blog: 5 Reasons Why Christian Girls Remain Single

One of my girlfriends sent the below article to me, I read it and my girlfriend and I discussed the article briefly.

I'm in agreement with some of the points.

This is a re-blog of the post:


5 Reasons Why Many Christian Girls Remain Single

In 2012 ,I was invited to be a member of a panel at a Christian singles conference. After speaking about living a purposeful life, and remaining pure in singleness, the topic of marriage invariably came up. A woman stood up and started pouring out her heart about how she desired a husband. How she was in her late thirties and did not want to be alone anymore. She said that she was on the verge of ‘settling’!
In an attempt to comfort her, an older woman whom we will call Sarah stood up and proclaimed that she was single at 60 AND had never married. Sarah started to encourage the younger lady. She said, look at me, I am 60 and not married but I will not settle. I want what God wants for me and will not settle for less. I have had many counterfeit men come into my life. Sarah then went ahead and started to rattle off about the men that had been potential suitors and what was wrong with them. As she spoke, somethings that seemingly escaped her started to become clear to those of us on the panel. She was to blame for being single at 60.
Here are some of the things we realized about Sarah that kept her single
Sarah wanted Jesus…not a disciple of Jesus…but Jesus Himself
Many women, like Sarah are looking for the perfect mate. They want someone who is going to complete them and be their everything! If this is you, then my question to you is this: If a man completes you and becomes your everything, then what position is Jesus taking in your life? Jesus is the one that completes you and is meant to be your everything. So, to look for completeness in a man is to make that man an idol in your life, it is to have put man above God! This will only lead to ruin because no man is perfect! Try as he might, he will disappoint you! So stop looking for someone who will not disappoint you over the lifetime you wish to be married…you will not find it. Even you, yes you…have and still disappoint many people…whether you realize it or not…whether you meant it or not. Instead of looking for perfection, look for someone who is striving towards perfection. This is a person that loves God and does not want to be conformed to the world but whose life’s purpose is to be transformed into the image of Jesus.
As my mom says, if you meet a person who is perfect, run away, for you will make imperfect whatever is making that person seem perfect.
Sarah saw herself as a princess, but she did not care to prince her man
There are many women who see themselves as awesome and incredible royalty. Many women say, I want to be treated like a princess! The issue is that they do not want their man to be a prince. They do not want to share any power or give up any control. Instead, they want their partners to take the position of a slave while treating them like a princess. The reason many women cannot let go of control is because of fear – perhaps due to not dealing with the hurts of pastrelationships. The moment the man does not give her the power she craves, she takes it as he not treating her like a princess and so searches for greener pastures. Conversely, many men see that while they are giving all they have, the woman is not following suit! Many women think that this is part of being pursued; many men simply see it as being disrespectful.
As a princess, you have to make sure you prince your man. Compliment him and let him know that you appreciate that he is being led by the King. Let go of the control. Taking a chance at love means you take a chance with your heart. This is because only the heart can feel love, not your head.
Sarah liked being pursued but did not want to be caught
In the bible, the servant of Abraham went to a land far away in pursuit of a wife for Isaac. When he got there, it was Rebekah that came to the well. When he approached, she did not play games and dilly-dally. No, she said that she would not wait as her family had requested but would follow Eliezer immediately back to Isaac. When Boaz pursued Ruth, Ruth decided to show her interest by laying at his feet. See, both Rebekah and Ruth showed interest. They did not play games or play hard to get.
Ladies, if a prince has found you, then admit it and go forward as long as you have God’s blessing. I am not saying be easy, but at the same time, do not be hard to get. Just as you are a gift to him, he is also a gift to you! If a man is pursing you, do not run him away with games.
Sarah was way too picky
Sarah did not want God to decide whom she should marry but decided on who she wanted to marry. In essence, she said: God, forget about who you desire for me, this is the person I want to marry…now make it happen! It was no longer God’s will for her life but her will for her life!
But does God not want to give us the desires of our heart? Yes…as long as it glorifies God. In fact, the scripture says: delight yourself in the Lord, and he will give you your heart’s desires. As you delight yourself in the Lord, you will find that His desires become your desire…thus your desire will glorify God!
You must believe right now that what God wants for you is better than what you could ever want for yourself in the long run. If he is not giving you your hearts desires, it may be because you are not ready to handle your heart’s desire. It may be because what you desire is not desirable!
Sarah wanted Boaz but wanted to remain a Delilah
Do not be like Sarah! Every potential suitor she met had some flaw that was fatal. One could not provide. Another could provide but was not attractive enough. A third was attractive and could provide but did not pay her enough attention. Yet, another paid her too much attention. She forgot that she was filled with flaws herself! She was so busy finding fault with everyone that she had no time to look at herself. She was so busy trying to find the speck in someone else’ life that she forgot that the log in her eyes was blinding her vision of the truth about herself. The truth that just like everyone else, she is imperfect and needs a saviour as well!
Sarah could not understand why the one’s she thought were ‘perfect’ for her were not interested. Sarah, perhaps it is because they are not willing to ‘settle’ either.
I thank God that he did not wait for us to be perfect but settled for us. He wants us to settle for nothing less than Himself. This means that we have to take the reins off our own lives and surrender completely to His will. It seemed that Joseph settled for Mary when He married a pregnant girl…but 
He became immortalized in history because of it. Are you willing to settle for God’s best for you?

Can you identify with Sarah at all? Do you agree or disagree with the writer?
The direct link to the blog is: 
http://diaryofasuperchamp.wordpress.com/