Thursday, 2 July 2015

Do You Know What's on the Inside?

Hello Readers and Followers,

How are you all doing? I would like to thank the person that has nominated herself to write a response to the post: "What Men Really Want". Her post is going to be about what Christian single women want from single men. I can't wait to share the post with you all. If you have any topic that you would like us to discuss or you need clarity about anything, please feel free to send an email to  

I think I've been experiencing a writer's block syndrome. I have been struggling to share a post and I wasn't sure what post to share with you all. I have finally decided, Praise Jesus with me. It is to be noted that all the posts on Myss Lafunky's Blog usually link back to the vision of the 3 R's for the ministry. A reminder of what the 3 R's are (Relationship with God, Relationship with People, Relationship with your Spouse (or Spouse to be)). I write as I am led by the Holy Spirit.  

Today's post is about appearance.

1 Samuel 16:17 states that: "The Lord does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart." How great would it be if we all look at the heart and not the outward appearance of others. Unfortunately, we do not have the power and ability to look at someone else's heart.

In the Bible (1Sam 16), Samuel was sent to the house of Jesse to find a new king. When he arrived, Samuel saw Eliab, one of Jesse's sons, and thought that he must have been the one God had chosen to be the next King. Evidently, like the previous King Saul, Eliab was tall, handsome and striking. Guess what? Despite Eliab's physical appearance that exuded being a King, he was not the one God had in mind.

God instructed Samuel not to assess people by their physical appearance! He told Samuel that He doesn't look at the outside but looks at the inside. In this generation where a large number of people are quick to judge others dressing due to social status, personal beliefs, personal style, culture, etc, I very much believe people would also have instantly chosen Eliab as the next King. Or perhaps, the person's education qualifications, age and marital status would have been considered before the individual had listened to God's views.
Back to the story, each of Jesse's sons passed before Samuel but God did not indicate that any of them was the man He had sent him to find. Finally, David, the youngest son, came in from the fields and the Lord spoke to Samuel, telling him this was the right one.
To all my male and female single readers, please do not be distracted by someone's physical appearance, qualifications and age when choosing your life partner, let God lead you like He led Samuel. Despite Samuel being a Prophet, he thought he was knowledgable and wise enough to know who the King should be, nevertheless, he eventually waited to be instructed and directed by God. Are you also waiting to be directed by God? Are you communicating with God regularly so that He can direct you in respects to your choices? 

When we look at someone's outward appearance, we often fail to see what God sees. Like Samuel, we tend to make judgements based on what people look like. However, God doesn't use looks as His criteria. He evaluates people by what's in their hearts. He sees their character, their faithfulness, their future, and their commitment to Him now and in the future.

To my Christian single readers, do not be charmed by someone's good looks, flattery or attentiveness to you, all of that can be fleeting. Do not be charmed by their titles or their backgrounds, where they work, how much they earn, the church they attend; trust God to direct you as He knows all things, He doesn't make mistakes and He is ready to lead you right and give you the best, if only you'd trust in Him. Remember to be patient with God and always cross check everything with the Word of God.

To those that are married, perhaps as your marriage ages, your spouse's outward appearance has started to diminish, your wife does not have a flat tummy anymore, your husband now has gray hair and he is losing his hair, or perhaps what physically attracted you to your spouse is beginning to wane, this is the time to remember what God said to Samuel about focusing on what's in the heart rather than what's physically noticeable.

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- Myss Lafunky

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Tuesday, 30 June 2015

Children and Foolishness

Foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child; The rod of correction will drive it far from him. (Proverbs 22:15 NKJV).

Children just naturally do silly, careless things, but a good spanking will teach them how to behave. (Proverbs 22:15 GNT). 

The word of God says a good spanking will teach children how to behave. I believe this is about reasonable chastisement. If you are a reader or follower of the blog, and you live in England, the law of the country discourages children to be chastised in an unreasonable manner and there must not be a mark on the child.

Parents are sometimes issued with a PPRC  (Person Who Poses Risk to Children) conviction and they would not be allowed to work with children and you will be exempted from some jobs. How do we balance this law with the Word of God?

Teach children how they should live, and they will remember it (Proverbs 22:6) 

Train up a child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it (Proverbs 22:6).

Enjoy the rest of your week.

Myss Lafunky. 
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Thursday, 25 June 2015

Who Are You Learning From?

People learn from one another, just as iron sharpens iron. (Proverbs 27:17 GNT).

Take heed whom you converse with. Let those who influence you make you better and wiser.

Iron cutting tools are made bright, sharp and fit for use by rubbing them against another iron. Without rubbing them with another iron, they are likely to be dull. Therefore, when you are in the company of godly friends, your spirit will be revived, you will be refreshed and you will become wiser.

A man that has friends must show himself friendly: and there is a friend that sticks closer than a brother  (Proverbs 18:24).

Don't be alone, learn to relate with godly people.

- Myss Lafunky
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Wednesday, 17 June 2015

In What Areas Do You Need To Develop Self-Control?

A person without self-control is like a city whose walls are broken through.

A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls.

A person who does not control his temper is like a city whose wall is broken down. 

Like a city breach without a wall, so is an impatient man. 
(Proverbs 25:28)

Rick Warren, a teacher of the Word of God wrote this about self-control:
People with self-control master their moods. They do not let their moods master them. Most of what gets done in the world is accomplished by people who do the right thing even when they don't feel like it: "A person without self-control is like a city with broken-down walls." (Proverbs 25:28, NLT)
People with self-control watch their words. They put their minds in gear before opening their mouths: "Be careful what you say and protect your life. A careless talker destroys himself." (Proverbs 13:3, TEV)
People with self-control restrain their reactions. How much can you take before you lose your cool? "If you are sensible, you will control your temper. When someone wrongs you, it is a great virtue to ignore it." (Proverbs 19:11, TEV)
People with self-control stick to their schedule. If you don't determine how you will spend your time, then others will decide for you: "Be very careful, then, how you live--not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil." (Ephesians 5:15-16, NIV)
People with self-control manage their money. They learn to live on less than what they make and they invest the difference. The value of a budget is that it tells your money where you want it to go rather than wondering where it went! "In the house of the wise are stores of choice food and oil, but a foolish man devours all he has." (Proverbs 21:20, NIV)
People with self-control maintain their health. That way they can accomplish more and enjoy their achievements: "Learn to appreciate and give dignity to your body ...." (1 Thessalonians 4:4, MSG)
In what areas do you need to develop self-control? The disciplines you establish today will determine your success tomorrow.
But it takes more than just willpower for lasting self-control. It takes a power greater than yourself: "For the Spirit that God has given us does not make us timid; instead, his Spirit fills us with power, love, and self-control." (2 Timothy 1:7, TEV) "
In what area of your life do you need to practise self-control?

There is no Christianity without self-control.

Enjoy the rest of your week

Myss Lafunky

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Friday, 12 June 2015

Sufferings:The Promise We Didn't Bargain For

Man that is born of a woman is of few days, and full of trouble (Job 14:1)

Yes, and all who DESIRE to live GODLY in Christ Jesus will suffer persecution (2 Timothy 3:12).

From the above scriptures, it is clear that sufferings are promised for believers that choose to live godly in Christ Jesus, there are no exemptions and there are no exceptions. It does not suggest that you have sinned or you are a bad person, or God is punishing you for a previous sin that you had committed.

Jesus does not want us to be surprised when we experience sufferings. He said: "Blessed are those who are persecuted for righteousness' sake, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven" (Matthew 5:10).  He also said that, "A servant is not greater than his master; if they persecuted Me, they will also persecute you" (John 15:20). Nonetheless, He said, the promise of our sufferings is not given to us to be discouraged from walking in the path of godliness; it is to prepare us for whatever difficulties that we would experience in this Christian journey and to build us up so as to be Christ-like.

Jesus said that "I have told you these things, so that you can have peace because of me. In this world you will have trouble. But cheer up! I have won the battle over the world." (John 16:33 NIRV). Jesus Christ had won the battle and He has deposited in you the power to win the battle.

James, the brother of Jesus must have had his own share of sufferings before he could encourage us in his opening line in the book of James 1, which states:

"My brethren, count it all joy when ye fall into divers temptations; Knowing this, that the trying of your faith worketh patience. But let patience have her perfect work, that ye may be perfect and entire, wanting nothing (James 1:2-4 KJV)."

The suffering is part of our growth process. Did you know that every believer has experienced hard times and sufferings? Unless they are new born babies or perhaps children. 

The book of 2 Corinthians 4:8-10 mentioned the role of sufferings in the life of a Christian, it states:

"We are pushed hard from all sides. But we are not beaten down. We are bewildered. But that doesn't make us lose hope.

We always carry around the death of Jesus in our bodies. In that way, the life of Jesus can be shown in our bodies." 

The benefit of being a Christian is that, you can ask the Holy Spirit for wisdom and power to manage the sufferings.

Apostle Paul told us that God would calm ours fears and ease our spirits. He reminded us that we are not in charge of ourselves but rather God is in charge of us. He encouraged us to place our worries and sufferings in the hands of God, and trust that God through Jesus Christ would walk with us through whatever sufferings came our way (Philippians 4:6-7). 

Have you gone through sufferings? Do you know anyone who has gone through terrible times? It could be the death of a loved ones, miscarriages, unexpected divorce, separation, breakup, failure, delay, etc? 

Be encouraged! I pray we would all find comfort and rest in God even in our most difficult times in Jesus name.

If you are living a life that is pleasing to God and you are experiencing sufferings, it means that you are precisely where Jesus predicted you would be.  He knows exactly what you are going through and He would see you through.

If you are experiencing sufferings, depend on God and find a trusted Christian to pray with you and to encourage you.

There hath no temptation taken you but such as is common to man: but God is faithful, who will not suffer you to be tempted above that ye are able; but will with the temptation also make a way to escape, that ye may be able to bear it (1 Corinthians 10:13). 

- Myss Lafunky

Enjoy your weekend!

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Monday, 8 June 2015

How to Abide in Christ - Part 1

Hi Readers & Followers,

Recently, I was given an opportunity to preach about who we are in Christ to a group of believers in church.  The Holy Spirit led me to preach on the topic 'Abiding in Christ'. Since, you were not all present during my teaching; I would like to exhort you with the same teaching.

I am the true vine, and My Father is the vinedresser. Abide in Me, and I in you.

What does it mean to abide in Christ? 

- To abide is: to dwell somewhere, it means to stay, to be situated within, to inhabit something, to live. 

- God wants you to dwell with Him, God wants you to live in Him. 

***Abiding in Christ, therefore, means to draw supernatural strength from the presence of the Lord and walk moment by moment in the leading of His Spirit** (

Why do You need to abide in Christ? 

Jesus laid emphasis on the importance of abiding in Him in verse 4, 5, 6 and 7 of John 15:1-8God's Word Bible translation explains it in a clearer manner, it says: "Live in me, and I will live in you. A branch cannot produce any fruit by itself. It has to stay attached to the vine. 
In the same way, you cannot produce fruit unless you live in me. “I am the vine. You are the branches. Those who live in me while I live in them will produce a lot of fruit. But you can’t produce anything without me. 
Whoever does not live in me is thrown away like a branch and dries up. Branches like this are gathered, thrown into a fire, and burned (John 15:4-6 GW)."

When You abide in Christ: 1) It helps you to stay closer to God, 2) You will be able to live a life that He expects you to live 3) A holy life, 4) An acceptable life unto Him, 5) A focused life, 6) A life free of worries, 7) A life full of positive thoughts 8) Your prayers would be in line with His Word, 8) You would be clear about His purpose for your lives.

-  God expects you to only abide in Jesus Christ as the true vine. It's a commandment from God, He said the only way that you can be put right with Him is for you to live according to the ways of Jesus Christ.

How Do You Abide in Christ?

1) Lay aside self-dependence and rely on Christ. In John 15:1-5, Jesus introduced Himself as the vine and we are the branches. He wants you to rely on Him totally.

Before you can rely on God, you must first lay aside every weight and sin that easily besets you and then look unto Christ- lay aside everything that slows you down..could it be your use of Internet, your work? Hebrews 12:1

- In the account of Simon Peter and Andrew (Mark 1:16-18), Jesus told them to follow Him as He was going to make them fishers of men. The Bible recorded that, they immediately left their nets and followed Him. This suggests that they left their weights and followed Christ.

Are you aware of the weights that are affecting you from abiding in Christ? Could it be laziness, not managing your time very well, trusting more in your own ability than of God, etc.

After you have laid aside those weights, you then need to trust in God. Proverbs 3:5 says that you should trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge Him and He will direct your steps. Learn to trust in God with every little thing. Let God be your burden bearer, let Him be your friend.

The trust should not be temporarily, it should be forever. The Bible says in Isaiah 26:4 that you should trust in the Lord forever, for the Lord God is our everlasting rock.

Trusting in God would strengthen your faith in Him, it would also help you to be humble as you would appreciate what God is doing and what He has done. 

The Hymn-writer said that: trust and obey, for there is no other way to be happy in Jesus but to trust and obey.

The Bible says in Jeremiah 17:7 that blessed are those who trust in the Lord and have the Lord their hope and confidence.

Summary 1: God abides in those that put their trust in Him at all times and those that lay aside their own wisdom.

2) Cultivate a relationship with Christ: To cultivate is to foster the growth of something. Purposely and consciously foster your growth. Philippians 2:12 says that you should work out your salvation with fear and trembling. Let's read the amplified version.

"Therefore, my dear ones, as you have always obeyed [my suggestions], so now, not only [with the enthusiasm you would show] in my presence but much more because I am absent, work out (cultivate, carry out to the goal, and fully complete) your own salvation with reverence and awe and trembling (self-distrust, with serious caution, tenderness of conscience, watchfulness against temptation, timidly shrinking from whatever might offend God and discredit the name of Christ). (Philippians 2:12 AMP)"

A) Start believing that Christ is already residing in you - He is not far away from you or He is not only residing with someone that has been Born Again for 20 years. 

B) Create time to know God through reading your bible and prayer. Do not neglect God's Word. The secret to abiding in Christ is studying the Word, and practising the Word of God. 

David said in Psalm 119:11 that Thy word have I hidden in my heart that I may not sin against thee. How precious is the word of God to you? What are you hiding in your heart?

Sometimes laziness may affect our reading and prayer lives but we must make a conscious effort to study the bible individually or with other believers.

Remember Jesus Christ? When he was on earth, He took time away to fellowship with his father (Read Luke 5:16

C) Spend time with those you admire their relationship with Christ. Jesus spent time with God, Elisha spent time with Elijah, Gehazi spent time with Elisha, Timothy spent time with Paul, Paul spent time with Aquilla and Priscilla. As you follow them or look upto them, remember to always cross check everything with the Word of God.

Watch out for Part 2 of this post. It has been published on the blog.

- Myss Lafunky

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How to Abide in Christ: Part 2

Continuation of how to Abide in Christ. Part 2. Happy Reading!

3) Walk in the Holy Spirit. Galatians 5:25 states that if we live by the Spirit, let us also behave in accordance with the Spirit. Paul was admonishing us that if it is the Holy Spirit that convicted us to believe in Jesus Christ, therefore, we ought to live a life that is guided by the Holy Spirit.

To walk in the Holy Spirit is to depend on God to guide you, for your conduct to be guided by Him, to be conscious to involve the Holy Spirit at all times in every area of your lives. You have free access to him (Romans 5:2) and He is in your heart (Ezekiel 36:26-27).

Make it a conscious effort to inquire from God when you are not clear about anything:
- Look at Moses (Numbers 27:1-5: daughters of Zelophehad). When Moses was not clear about the request of the girls, he immediately consulted God.

- When David was not clear on what to do, he immediately asked God if he should go and attack the Philistines; he asked God over and over again (1 Samuel 23:1-4).

- Even when it appears good, be conscious of the Spirit of God inside you. Remember the disciples of Jesus Christ? The book of Acts 16:6 says that when Paul and Silas travelled through the area of Phrygia and Galatia, the Holy Spirit prevented them from preaching in the province of Asia. Would you ever believe the Holy Spirit can prevent you from doing what may appear good to you or your friends and family?

- Before choosing Jesus chose his disciples, he went to a mountainside to pray and he spent a whole night to pray and after he had prayed, he chose his disciples ( Luke 6:12-14).

4) Let your light shines at all times: God expects your light to shine before others (regardless of who they are), that they may see your good works and glorify God in heaven (Matthew 5:16). God expects you to dwell in Him by living a life which is influenced by what He is daily teaching you so that the glory will go back to Him and for others to know about your Christian faith. Is your light shinning or is it dim?

Check out 1 John 2:9-11, God recently taught me the importance of this scripture. God said if we hate others, we are walking in darkness, we are not part of His family. Oh dear! May God reveal the state of our hearts to us.

5) Do not conform to the world (Romans 12:1-2).  Let the Word of God be your standard.
Let the Word of God define the way you talk, the way you reason, the way you relate with others, and the way you act. Let it not be the law of the country or the media that controls how you live your life.

God already knows that some people would conform to the standards of this world, hence He pleaded with us not to conform as He knows the danger of it.

God also encouraged us not to conform to the extravagant lifestyle, things that lead to vanity and pride, way of dressing, ways of speaking that people that are not born again engage in. He wants His Word to control you.

1 John 2:16 -17 in GNT says that: Not everything that the world offers—physical gratification, greed, and extravagant lifestyles—comes from the Father. It comes from the world, and the world and its evil desires are passing away. But the person who does what God wants lives forever (1 John 2:16-17 GW).

Are you going to abide in Christ so that you can live forever? 

1) Lay aside self-dependence and rely on God.
2) Cultivate a relationship with Christ.
3) Walk in the Spirit.
4) Let your light shines.
5) Do not conform to the world but let the Word of God directs you.

In conclusion
Live every moment with the expectation that the Lord is coming in the very minutes. Would it meet you when you are abiding in Him or when you have fallen? 

Allow God to help you. He is always ready to help you.

Hold unto your faith in God, hold unto holiness even until the end.

Do not let what is happening in the world influence your way of life. Let the word of God be your guide.

Have a lifestyle that always want to please God.

Don't live a second with sin and don't procrastinate when to confess your sins, if you fall into sin, confess it immediately, remember we have full access to Christ as born again Christians. 

God said, "He that shall endure unto the end, the same shall be saved."

Are you going to abide in Christ unto the end? 


1) I will abide in Christ to the end in Jesus name.

2) The coming of the Lord Jesus Christ will find me at the right place in Jesus name.

3) I shall not conform to the standard of the world but of God in Jesus name.

- Myss Lafunky

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